Identity

To understand the identity of others, it is important for us to understand our own identity. This self-awareness helps us recognize any differences that may exist between us and the children we care for, as well as their families. By understanding these differences, we can work towards bridging any gaps that may arise. Before you begin caring for children, take some time with your family to reflect on your own identity.

A person's identity encompasses various aspects, such as:

• Physical appearance, including skin colour, hair, glasses;
• Clothing style;
• Speech patterns and language;
• Beliefs and opinions;
• Family values and traditions;
• Religious beliefs;
• Family history and background;
• How we form relationships, including our sexual orientation;
• Abilities and disabilities;
• Being a child in care;
• Employment;
• The music they listen to.

It is crucial to promote the development of a child or young person's positive identity. This becomes even more vital when they are not living with their own family. Often, within our own culture, we inadvertently assume that our way of life is universal. For example, our traditions around celebrating Christmas may be seen as the norm. To better understand a child or young person's identity, it is important to comprehend their background, which should be addressed in the Placement Plan at the beginning of their placement. Consider how you will celebrate special occasions together.

In cases where children from different backgrounds or cultures are placed with you, BFfC’s IFA will provide additional training, support, and information. This ensures that the child or young person receives the best possible care, fostering a positive understanding of their background and heritage.

Culture plays a significant role in a child or young person's identity and heritage. As foster carers, it is crucial to respect and value a child's cultural heritage.

Culture encompasses the way people live their lives, influenced by various factors such as memories, common experiences, background, language, racial identity, class, religion, and family attitudes.

Conflicts may arise in foster homes when differences in lifestyle and expectations- sometimes unspoken as natural to household members- collide. When a young person struggles to adjust to expected behaviours, routines and rules, finding a resolution can be challenging. Simple examples include differences in table manners, morning routines or religious observance. In such situations, it is important to engage in open and empathetic communication with the child to find out how they used to do certain things in their family. It might be appropriate to involve their family too. Seek assistance from your supervising social worker and the child's social worker to navigate these challenges.

It is possible that you may look after a child whose first language is not English. BFfC’s IFA will help you to find ways of communication. This could be via an interpreter/translator, google translation, pictures, etc.

Language forms a crucial part of a child's identity and culture. Every effort should be made to preserve their linguistic and communication skills, as neglecting these aspects can result in a loss of significant cultural elements. If you require more information or advice regarding a child's cultural and linguistic needs, reach out to the child's social worker or your supervising social worker.

Having said this, it will also be important to teach the child English to support their integration. 

The religious upbringing of a Child Looked After holds great importance. If they come from a faith practising family and wish to continue to do so, then BFfC’s IFA expects its foster carer to support this irrespective of their own religious beliefs.  

If children do not wish to practice a faith, then it is expected that this is respected and accepted, equally, foster carers need to appropriately support children if they wish to explore different faiths.

The right to determine a child's religion is retained by the birth parents, regardless of the circumstances leading to the child coming to live with you. Some parents may express strong preferences, which are taken into account when choosing a foster family for the child.

A child or young person's disability is an integral part of who they are, and meeting their specific needs is crucial in respecting their identity.

Some young people may identify as transgender, meaning their gender identity differs from their birth gender, or as non-binary, where they may not identify as exclusively male or female. Girls, boys, transgender, and non-binary young people must all receive equal opportunities and encouragement to pursue their talents, interests, and hobbies.

Do not impose or condone sexist stereotypes of behaviour.

Young people exploring their gender identity or sexuality need to be supported in a way that is suitable to their needs. It is vital to protect them from adverse effects such as bullying and discrimination. Some young people may require specialist support or wish to discuss medical interventions. Consult with your supervising social worker and the child's social worker for additional support available in your local area.

How can you support children and young people to grow up learning about diversity and feeling positive about their identity?

Whilst seemingly small, it can have a significant impact on a child's sense of self if they do not see representations that mirror their own identity. Consider all the elements a child or young person encounters, such as other people, music, sports, toys, books, social media and posters. Do these items depict positive images of children from diverse backgrounds and abilities?

When selecting toys, books, and other materials, choose ones that feature characters and role models from various ethnicities, cultures, abilities, and genders. Prioritise resources that promote understanding, respect, and inclusivity.

In terms of Children Looked After’s identity in relation to their birth family, foster carers must support children to have photos, letters or drawings from family members in their rooms or create those for family members to give to them at family time. Try to ascertain birth family members birthdays so the child can celebrate with them in an appropriate way. Supporting the child to have a positive and realistic understanding of their family background often supports the stability of the placement with you.

By embracing diversity and promoting respect and understanding, you can create a nurturing environment that celebrates each child's unique identity. Regularly review the care plan and ensure that the child's needs are being met. Protect children from bullying, discriminatory behaviour, and other forms of discrimination. Address any instances of discriminatory behaviour and provide support and guidance to children on how to treat others with respect.